Who Are We Really?

Most of our life is spent trying to find out who we are, what we like, and what will make us happy. We spend a large amount of time stressing about the past, the present and the future, but for all the hours we spend worrying about the inevitable, we are missing what is most important: Being alive.   Sometimes with all the stress, we forget how truly lucky we are to be given the things we have, like simply being alive. We don’t take the time to smell the roses, because we are so busy trying to solve problems that might not even need solving.

Personally, finding out who we are can be extremely time consuming. Especially when high school comes around, because college is nearing and knowing what you like is important for the future. The thing is we can’t really define who we are. I mean, you can use words like: sympathetic, friendly, caring, or thoughtful, but those are just descriptions of your character. But who are you really? Can you answer that? I can’t. How do you even begin to describe who you are? You can be the most down to earth person there is, but that doesn’t mean that is who you ARE. Who you are is how you handle the things that are thrown at you and how you learn from them. Mistakes shape who we are, as well as our experiences. There are a lot of things that can describe who we are, but really knowing who you are takes years. Every day is a new day to do things differently, experience new things, and be a better human being. Therefore, who we are is always changing. We are always adapting. Who I am today, might not be who I will be a year from now. So who are you really? Someone you want to be? What makes you who you are? So many people search for themselves, but it is right in front of them. You can look at all your deepest secrets, but you are the choices that you make in the present. Your past doesn’t have to define you, but shape you into the person you have become.

Finding happiness is something a lot of us struggle to find. Whether it be in a career choice we are making, the friends we surround our-self with, or even daily things that bring a smile to our face. Why do we struggle to find happiness? Simply because we don’t realize the price happiness has. We can’t always be happy, but that moment of happiness is something we all want to remember. We want to wash away the pain with joy, but sometimes we let our pain override our happiness. Which makes us crave being happy so much more. The road to being happy is just letting yourself indulge on the things that please you or make you feel good. That is one thing I lack of doing. Personally, I always tear myself down for not being this or that, but honestly, it isn’t even worth it when I could be happy. Happiness is like a drug. Once you know what it is like to be happy, it becomes an addiction hard to break. My new year’s resolution is to find things that make me happy and do them. Being sad is no fun, especially when you are sad for a long time. We all deserve to feel happy.

The time spent on stressing over the little things adds up and takes a large toll on our lives. We need to just take time out of our busy schedules, to relax and know that things will work out. Things happen for a reason, so we need to just stop stressing so much. We put our bodies through a lot, and we sometimes forget how much we put ourselves through. It’s time to just do the things we enjoy, and let the stress go. Life is so short. I hope to live mine to the fullest, and so should everybody.